Regulate You, Regulate Them: Nervous System Tools for Moms
You don’t need to be perfect to be a present mom.
Let’s say that again! You don’t need to be perfect to be a present mom.
But you do need to be regulated.
And that’s the part no one teaches us.
We talk a lot about tantrums, meltdowns, defiance, and overwhelm — but what if those aren’t just “kid problems”?
What if they’re messages… signals that our children are absorbing more from our nervous system than from our words?
I learned this the hard way.
It wasn’t the routines, parenting books, or gentle reminders that made the difference. It was the moment I realized:
When I’m grounded, he’s grounded.
When I’m safe, he feels safe.
When I’m regulated… so is he.
That’s the power we carry as moms. Not through control, but through coherence.
What is Nervous System Co-Regulation?
Your nervous system is constantly communicating — to your child, your partner, your environment. When you’re in a stress response (fight, flight, freeze, or fawn), your child can feel it.
Not consciously.
But deeply, instinctively.
This is called co-regulation — and it means that your state becomes their template for safety.
The more you ground, the more they can too.
Not because you force calm… but because you embody it.
Tools to Regulate You (So They Can Too)
Three Deep Breaths — Every Transition
Before you speak, move, or respond.
Make this your mini reset throughout the day.
Mirror + Touch
Eye contact with your child while gently placing your hand on your own chest.
“I’m here. I’ve got me. You’re safe.”
Grounding Before Reacting
Ask: Where do I feel this in my body? before reacting.
Just the pause helps interrupt inherited patterns.
These aren’t parenting tricks.
They’re healing practices — for you and your child.
If You’re Running on Empty…
Many of the moms I work with are already doing the inner work — but they’re exhausted. And not just from parenting.
It’s generational.
It’s spiritual.
It’s soul-deep.
That’s why I created the Burnout Quiz — a simple tool to help you identify your pattern and your next step.
Come Regulate with Us
If you’re craving more tools and space to reset — you’re invited to our Meditation Mornings.
This isn’t another thing to add to your plate.
It’s a space to put the plate down.
We meet live on Zoom three times a week.
We breathe, we ground, we soften.
👉 Join Meditation Mornings (Free for Village Members)
Because when you regulate you,
You teach your child how to feel safe in their own skin.
And that changes everything.
With love and deep grounding,
Carrie
Take Back Your Light