The Cost of Avoiding Anger: Healing What’s Under the Rage

What if your anger wasn’t the problem—
but the buried truth trying to reach you?

Many of us grew up learning that anger was dangerous, disrespectful, or shameful. Especially if you were raised in a home where big feelings weren’t allowed, your nervous system may have learned to shut anger down fast.

You were taught to behave.
To be nice.
To be quiet.
To keep the peace.

But over time, all that unspoken anger has to go somewhere.
It doesn’t disappear.
It hides in your body.
It seeps into your relationships.
And it sabotages the very peace you’re trying to protect.

Anger Is Not the Enemy — Suppression Is

When you suppress your anger, you don’t become more peaceful.
You become more anxious.
More exhausted.
More likely to explode at the wrong time, over the wrong thing, with the wrong person.

Why?

Because unprocessed anger builds up like pressure in a sealed container. And eventually… it leaks.

Where Does Suppressed Anger Go?

• Into your body (tight chest, clenched jaw, chronic pain)

• Into your mind (overthinking, irritation, resentment)

• Into your habits (people-pleasing, passive aggression, self-sabotage)

• Into your relationships (explosions, shutdowns, cold silences)

And worst of all: it disconnects you from your true self.
The version of you who can speak boundaries with love.
Who can feel anger and not fear it.
Who can honor anger’s wisdom—without letting it run the show.

The Subconscious Roots of Rage

Anger is often a surface emotion.
Beneath it lives something more tender:

• A boundary that was violated

• A need that was ignored

• A belief that you’re not safe, not heard, not allowed

When we trace anger to its origin—often buried deep in the subconscious—we find old programming. Childhood moments when we were punished for speaking up. Memories of being shamed or silenced. Times we needed support and got rejection instead.

That’s where the work begins.

My Journey with Anger (and How I Stopped Fearing It)

For years, I saw anger as something to “get over.”
Something unspiritual.
Something unsafe.

But it kept bubbling up—especially in parenting, especially in relationships. I’d try to stay calm, try to self-soothe, try to be “evolved.”
But it wasn’t working.

It wasn’t until I used the Regressive Release Method to go inward—to meet the child within me who wasn’t allowed to feel her rage—that I finally understood:

My anger wasn’t an enemy.
It was my ally.
It was my signal that I mattered.

And when I listened to it… it stopped yelling.

Ready to Make Peace with Your Anger?

You don’t need to be less emotional.
You need to feel safe with your emotions.
And that begins in the subconscious mind—where those early patterns live.

When you reprogram the belief that anger = danger,
you create space for:

• Healthy boundaries

• Emotional honesty

• Self-respect

• Real peace

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You don’t need to fear your fire.
You just need to learn how to tend it.

With compassion,
Carrie LaMastus
It’s time to…Take Back Your Light!